Customers want to get to know models better, from hearing them talk (this includes the words they say, but also how they say them, and para-verbals like how they laugh or make sexual sounds). Shoots where models tell engaging and vibrant stories are much more interesting to watch (and make it easier for Shoot Producers to showcase a model’s real personality).
The Conversation assessment area is used in Solo shoots to assess SP’s on how well they do this. We acknowledge a lot of the “quality” of how a model talks comes from the model herself, but there is still plenty the SP can do influence what models say in the shoot.
While a good story is always going to bring some value, not every story is right for any moment in the video. For example;
A model has chosen to make an Explicit-level Solo shoot. In a video scene towards the end of the shoot, she’s masturbating.
She’s talking about people who have inspired her.
This is a story worth sharing, but it’s not appropriate for when she is masturbating (unless, the story was about being inspired to masturbate!).
The same is true of asking Sexual questions too early in the shoot, for example;
A model has chosen to make an Insertions-level Solo shoot. In the clothed component, she’s walking around a garden.
She’s asked about how she likes to be penetrated when having sex, and describes her preferences.
This is information our customers certainly want to hear, but it’s better suited to be told when she is inserting her own fingers or a sex toy.
These are extreme examples that illustrate the point: Some times are better than others for some conversation topics. It’s common sense.
While it can be interesting to play around with this formula occasionally, our Emotion Over Time approach dictates that usually it is best to begin with non-sexual stories and to build up the intimacy of questions in line with the Posing Level the model is performing.
The guidelines are as follows;
-
As a general rule, ask more-sexual questions at the model’s highest Posing Level, and ask more-general questions when the model is clothed and is undressing
- The sexual-ness of the questions should generally match the sexual-ness of the shoot
- Consider that models at lower Posing Levels tend to be less-comfortable with detailed sex-based questions
- Tread carefully at first, check the model is comfortable with the line of questioning
- Consider that “more sexual” questions for a model at her highest level of Nude Only might be “Tell about about the last few times you were naked in front of people?” (ie, less-sexually-impactful). This is always fine if it’s what the model is comfortable with.
- Advance the sexual-ness of questions as the maximum Posing Level is developed in the shoot
- See examples below
What are some example questions I should ask models, based on their Posing Level?
These are just some examples of the “sexual-ness” of questions that are appropriate to ask at a given Posing Level, showing a suitable progression (imagine if this was a shoot of one model, who identified as heterosexual). Of course, there are many more questions that could be asked than just these questions!
When the model is clothed
- What do you do for fun?
- Who inspires you?
- What are some lessons you’ve learned in life, that you want to pass on?
- What’s the most trouble you have ever been in?
- What’s your ideal date?
When the model is at the Nude Posing Level
- What parts of your body do you like? What do you like about them?
- Apart from masturbation, show us some ways you like to touch your body? How do they feel? When do you do that?
- How do you like your breasts to be touched?
- What is your earliest pleasant memory of a sexual encounter?
- What makes sex with you unique?
When the model is at the Open Leg Posing Level
- What are some stretches you do to feel limbered up?
- Where do you “feel the burn”?
- How and where do you like to be touched during foreplay?
- How do you touch yourself before masturbating?
- What are some times when you have touched another girl’s thighs? What was the context?
- Describe your first intimate experience?
When the model is at the Explicit Posing Level
- What is the dirtiest thing you’ve ever done?
- Tell us about your first orgasm?
- What do you think about anal sex?
- How do you give blowjobs, what is your technique and what do you like about them the most?
- Where do you like a man to cum on your body?
When the model is at the Insertions Posing Level
- What’s the wildest thing you have done sexually?
- What’s been your longest “dry spell” and how did you deal with it?
- What are some objects you have played with sexually? In which way?
- What do you think about double penetration? (anal and vaginal penetration at same time)
- How much does penis-size matter?
Layering Conversation with the highest Posing Level
Solo shoots are more engaging when several shoot assessment areas are Layered together.
A static model sitting on a bed only talking (Conversation) is less engaging than a talking model who is also performing an activity. This could be MMaiA, Active use of a suitable prop, or a combination of several different assessment areas. The specific combination of assessment areas is not important, the elements being combined complimenting each other is.
Examples of obviously-suitable Conversation topics during EXP and INS
Anything linked to a models sexual journey or her physical pleasure and desires is suitable to be Layered with highest Posing Level action. Models talking about sexual things while doing sexual things is appropriate. Some examples of suitable topics include:
- Anything that is about the model’s physical body and how she derives pleasure – her breasts, thighs, buttocks, vulva, anus etc;
-
Model recounting any past sexual encounters;
- In these cases, the model should act them out in as much detail as possible!
- Model sharing her sexual awakening stories – first time masturbating, first kiss, first penetrative sex, and similar;
- Model sharing her sexual fantasies, plans and desires;
- Model reading out loud erotica she has written.
(this is not a complete list)
Examples of inappropriate Conversation topics during EXP and INS
Anything linked to the model’s non-sexual past, more mundane aspects of her life (for example, work, hobbies) and any deeply emotional stories are unsuitable when Layered with the highest Posing Level. The individual elements are too dissimilar and are jarring (and make models uncomfortable). Some examples of unsuitable topics include:
- Talking about their pre-sexual self; innocent stories from childhood (for example, playing Mary in the school nativity play; meeting Santa);
- Talking about mundane life-things (for example, work, non-sexual hobbies, study; yoga routine; travel);
- Discussing deeply emotional experiences (for example, deaths, illnesses, bullying, personal challenges)
(this is not a complete list)
As for most things in life, there are always exceptions. For example, if her BFF helped the model’s sexual awakening when she was 17 but died when she was 21, it’s appropriate to bring up the advice and death earlier in the shoot (in a non-sexual context), then refer to it when she is doing sexual stuff (“This is a masturbation tip I got from Rebecca…”).
Scenario one
Model Jane grew up with a mother suffering from a debilitating illness. She talks openly about being a young carer and how that impacted her life then and now.
This is a great Conversation topic! It reveals the model’s caring nature, touches upon her growth and development into the woman she is today – and has the potential to be moving, causing customers to empathise with the model and thus feel closer to her. Causing customers to have real feelings is a part of the abbywinters.com paradigm, and this is definitely a story to be told on camera (assuming the model is comfortable telling it, of course!). However, it’s not suitable to be paired with the model inserting a dildo!
The story is good, and and the dildo action is also good… when combined, the juxtaposition feels “weird” and disrespectful .
This is an “extreme” example, but the same is also true with less dramatic Conversation topics that are inappropriately juxtaposed.
Scenario two
Model Angela is an accomplished flautist, she has played for many years and went into higher education on a music scholarship.
Jane should certainly introduce customers to her flute and talk about her love of the instrument, some of the experiences she has had because of it and her goals once she has finished her music training. She should also play the instrument during video. However this content does not easily pair with the EXP or INS Posing Level.
Either the model is casually chatting about her music, or she is physically pleasuring herself – it can’t be both.
Transitioning from non-sexual Conversation topics to Sexual topics
Conversation is at its best when it seamlessly transitions from one thought to another. An SPs role is to act as a guide, helping models to flow from one thought into the next. A single Conversation topic should lead to several different ideas being explored. SPs encourage this by using follow up questions.
Through managed Conversation models will be able to transition from highest Posing Level poses into lower posing level action (perhaps MMaiA) and back again. The overall topic of Conversation will remain the same but the specific questions will be selected to match the Posing Level being performed at that time.
This means a model may begin by talking about something that would not be suitable to pair with EXP or INS action (perhaps while looking for her dildo – MMaiA) and then evolve that topic of Conversation into something that is suitable to discuss during INS, by the time she is ready to start inserting.
This method will aid SPs to construct a textured and interesting structure within Solo shoots. A model doing all her highest Posing Level action back to back is dull. A model doing other activities between highest Posing Level poses is interesting.
Take Jane and her flute. While she should not talk about the general topic of her flute during masturbation ‘this one time at band camp’ something sexual could have happened and that is a very suitable thing to pair with EXP or INS.
Yoga
Lower Posing Level topics
- How she got into it
- Her usual routine
- Her experience at a retreat in the desert
Higher Posing Level topic
- Explaining tantric yoga
- The sex she had at yoga camp
- The yoga poses she uses most while having sex
Work
Lower Posing Level topics
- First job
- Worst job
- Current job and career goals
Higher Posing Level topic
- Power dressing for work transitioning into dressing a certain way for dates
- Her sexual fantasy about being a sex worker
- The crush she had on her old boss and confessing to thinking about them while masturbating at home – transitioning into a general discussion about real people she uses to masturbate vs imaginary people.
School days
Lower Posing Level topics
- Summary of the kind of kid she was
- Worst thing she ever did and the punishment
- How nostalgic she is for the past
- How she thinks she has grown spiritually since childhood.
Higher Posing Level topic
- When did she first become aware of sex and sexuality
- Firsts: Kiss; masturbation; fingering; penetration etc
Her musical instrument
Lower Posing Level topics
- What drew her to it
- If it has name
- How long she has been playing, her goals, inspirations etc
Higher Posing Level topic
- What music gets her in the mood
- Any sexual encounters at band camp / music festivals etc
How much talking should models do during EXP and INS content?
The amount of talking a model should do during sexual action will vary depending on the model’s personality.
Some models will naturally be able to balance Conversation and EXP and INS, others will find it very hard and ‘weird’ to multitask like this. It is the Solo shoot equivalent of asking a model to “pat her head and rub her tummy” at the same time – some people can and some people cannot. Either is fine.
What is most important is that models feel comfortable, and the talking she does is on-topic.
Check in with model’s comfort level
The first time Conversation is Layered with the highest Posing Level, SPs check in with the model and ask how they felt about it (as always, using open-ended questions even though the camera is not recording).
SPs need to establish if the model finds layering Conversation with sexual action comfortable. If a model is not comfortable doing both, the two elements need to be separated, with the sexual Conversation being Layered with other things – perhaps MMaiA.